From the Worldwide Faith News archives


Date 05 May 1996 13:20:52


                          by Alexa Smith 
LOUISVILLE, Ky.--Barry Anderson stayed away from the Presbyterian Church 
for years. It was too painful to attend and not let others know about the 
most significant spiritual conflict in his life:  his struggle with 
     Though, he says, he did not directly hear homosexuals condemned either 
from the pulpit or in Sunday school, the inferences and asides in casual 
conversations were much worse. 
     "The jokes, the innuendo [implying] homosexuals are ... beneath us," 
says Anderson, hurt more. "The church needs to be a place where people can 
come out of the closet.  ... 
     "But the Body of Christ on a local church basis is not an environment 
conducive to being open about our lives.  We're encouraged to play games, 
pretend everything is fine and wonderful -- and we're forced to deal with 
the real issues [of our lives] very privately." 
     Anderson -- who has come back to the Presbyterian church -- is not 
just speaking about his own experience.  An ex-gay man, Anderson now 
directs Set Free in Richmond, Va., an arm of a national ex-gay ministry, 
where homosexuals are supported in their efforts to change their behavior. 
     Several Presbyterian churches across the country are now aligning 
themselves with organizations like Set Free.  The Brighton Presbyterian 
Church in Rochester, N.Y., currently funds and houses its own locally based 
ex-gay ministry, The Malachi Group. 
     And a new group within the Presbyterian Renewal Network, known as 
One-by-One, has just been established to circulate educational materials 
and develop workshop leaders so ex-gay ministries may be more 
congregationally based and less dependent on parachurch organizations. 
     One of the ministry's co-directors, Kathy Moore, describes One-by 
One's educational material as designed to equip the church to "minister the 
transforming grace and power of Jesus Christ to those in conflict with 
their sexuality."  That includes information on child abuse, pornography 
and healing the homosexual. 
     "I think we would be surprised if we learned what people struggle with 
in our pews," says Moore, who co-directs One-by-One and The Malachi Group, 
and who believes churches may provide "safe places" for people to struggle 
with community support -- particularly when the struggle is as complicated 
as changing homosexual behavior. 
     She says a traditional biblical perspective is sought by some seeking 
to leave a gay lifestyle. Moore distinguishes between homosexual behavior 
-- which is, she says, biblically defined as sin -- and the homosexual, who 
is a struggler, like every other person seeking grace. 
     Few other sinful lifestyles become adopted as a false kind of 
identity, Moore says. 
     "[Changing behavior] is hard work on the part of a person," says 
Moore, a heterosexual woman who has worked with The Malachi Group since the 
late 1980s. "There's a lot of self-contempt, hopelessness, helplessness 
and, unfortunately, the belief that God agrees with how they see 
     And that means, she says, wrestling with deep and painful identity 
issues, from childhood to the present.  It also means tossing aside images 
of God that are rigid and angry or Santa Claus-like and magical -- and 
beginning to reconceptualize God. 
     "I really believe God desires the Body of Christ to come alongside and 
be friends," says Moore, who believes professional counseling needs to be 
reinforced with community support.  Moore's counseling is supervised by 
both her pastor and a clinical social worker. 
     Corona Presbyterian Church in downtown Denver provides meeting space 
for the ex-gay organization Where Grace Abounds.  A mission worker to 
Denver's gay community is also financed by the church.  "We're debating 
this thing to death," says the Rev. Jeff Winter, Corona's pastor.  "But 
very few churches are reaching out. 
     "Where Grace Abounds only works with those people who want to make a 
move," says Winter. The church now has a ministry to a mixed group of 
people, he adds, that includes some men who define themselves as "strays" 
who are no longer part of the gay community but who do not feel straight 
     The honesty of the gay community about its struggles, says Winter, has 
pushed others in the congregation to examine their own struggles with 
heterosexual sexuality, such as promiscuity and intimacy. 
     "We all struggle with our sexuality, whether we're heterosexual or 
homosexual," Winter says, adding that he tries to serve as a heterosexual 
role model and pastor. "They minister to me," he said. "When you're with 
people [who] get honest with you, you get honest with yourself.  And 
there's real power in that." 
     Struggling with what intimacy means has led to a conference scheduled 
at Corona Oct. 19-21 called "Tools for the Journey:  A Biblical Look at 
Sexual Intimacy." 
     Anderson believes  homosexual orientation is not in itself sin. 
Homosexual behavior, he says, is what the Bible rejects.  "Behavior," he 
says, "we have some choice in, regardless of what our inclination may be." 
     One-by-One has a 10-member board, directed by Moore and her husband, 
Jim.  Winter and Anderson are board members.  Its mailing address is:  P.O. 
Box 10055, Rochester, NY  14610. 

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