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ELCA NEWS SERVICE

December 11, 1998

LEADERS RESPOND TO, PREVENT CLERGY SEXUAL ABUSE IN THE ELCA
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     CHICAGO (ELCA) -- It may be one of the toughest jobs in the
Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA) -- listening very
carefully
to accusations of clergy sexual abuse, providing information about
procedures to respond, providing pastoral care for all involved and
taking
action.  The key 130 people who deal with any reports of misconduct
in the
ELCA's 65 synods gathered here Dec. 4-6 for a leadership training
event.
     "When a similar conference was held five years ago, the mood was
much
more anxious," said the Rev. Joseph M. Wagner, executive director of
the
ELCA Division for Ministry.  "This conference was a more relaxed
sharing of
experiences, and demonstrated growing levels of competence by those
who
care for cases of sexual abuse."  The division sponsored the event.
     In 1992 the church adopted "an ELCA Strategy for Responding to
Sexual
Abuse in the Church," concrete policies and procedures for dealing
with
reports of clergy misconduct and for providing preventive education.
The
document began with a theological base and concluded with the
recommendation that after four years "some assessment be made of the
state
of the ELCA regarding sexual abuse."
     "The conference demonstrated that a lot of progress has been
made in
the ELCA regarding the prevention of clergy sexual abuse, and in the
readiness of synod bishops and staff to respond to incidents of
abuse,"
said Wagner.
     "The chief value of the event was to encourage, support and
better
equip those who provide this critical ministry to our church.  They
are the
shock troops who walk into situations of great pain, and give
direction and
hope for healing," he said.
     Sixteen workshops included such topics as "Hearing the Voices
of
Victims," "Healing in Congregations," the concerns of the families
of
offenders and discipline issues.  Plenary sessions featured three
speakers:
the Rev. Pamela Cooper-White, Nancy Myer Hopkins and Phillip H.
Harris.

COOPER-WHITE: GENDER, POWER AND EXPLOITATION

     "Gender and power" and "the dynamics of sexual exploitation"
were
topics for Cooper-White, an Episcopal priest and author of "The Cry
of
Tamar: Violence Against Women and the Church's Response," who
maintains a
private practice in psychotherapy in the Chicago area.
     "Unfaithfulness is not the only issue.  A pastor's sexual or
romantic
involvement with a parishioner is not primarily a matter of sex or
sexuality, but of power, and the unequal ability of the parishioner
to give
authentic consent," said Cooper-White.
     "Sexual exploitation is a betrayal of trust" placed in the
pastoral
office, said Cooper-White.  Such trust can also be placed in lay
ministers,
seminarians and others in a "supervisory, employer, counseling,
spiritual
direction, evaluative or teaching relationship," she said.
     "We are talking about ethical matters that reach for each of us
into
the very heart of our own 'gendered' nature -- our sexuality," said
Cooper-White.  "As women and as men we do not come to this topic with
the same
experiences or perspectives."
     "Violence against men is commonly understood as violence, a
crime, a
violation of a person's rights.  Violence against women, however, in
all
its various forms, is all too often called something else ... just a
little
joke ... seduction ... being in the wrong place at the wrong time ...
poor
communication skills ... masochism ... re-creating the abusive
conditions
of her childhood," Cooper-White said.
     The church is called to do four things: see and hear the truth;
name
sexual abuse and sexual exploitation as violence; move beyond
helplessness,
sympathy and anger to justice; and restore "right relation," said
Cooper-White.  That "right relation" is more than just between
individuals, she
said; it involves all of society and all forms of oppression.
     "Secrecy, denial, distortions and lies are at the heart of all
forms
of sexual abuse," said Cooper-White.  "The institution of the church
only
has integrity to the extent that it represents God's own realm of
justice
and peace here on earth, God's own care for the vulnerable and a
devotion
to truth-telling in love."

HOPKINS: MAINTAINING BOUNDARIES

     "If it had not been for the victims who found their voice and,
in
many cases, had to keep finding their voices, we probably would still
not
be doing very much ... to address this thing we call clergy sexual
abuse,
misconduct, exploitation, harassment," said Hopkins, a licensed
professional counselor in Maine who is a recognized authority on
helping
congregations respond to the challenges of clergy sexual abuse.
     "There is no question that anyone who becomes a victim of
sexual
misconduct and brings a complaint has every right to be taken
seriously and
to know that the church continues to hold its clergy totally
responsible
for maintaining the boundaries," said Hopkins.  "At the same time we
must
be strengthening all people in the pews so that they understand,
before
anything happens, both the promise of healthy clergy-parishioner
relationships and what an unhealthy relationship looks like."
     Hopkins commended a 1996 publication of the ELCA Division for
Ministry, "Safe Connections: What Parishioners Can Do to Understand
and
Prevent Clergy Sexual Abuse."  She added, "I hand it out like
cookies."

HARRIS: MYTHS AND REALITIES

     As the ELCA's senior attorney, Harris said he has heard a lot
of
"myths" that he hoped to dispel for the gathering.  Myths are a form
of
denial, he said.
     "Myth: It only happened this one time with this one woman,"
said
Harris.  "Almost always the perpetrator has more than one victim," he
said,
and that has strong implications for any attempt for someone hoping
to be
reinstated as a pastor later.
     "Myth: It's no big deal.  It's just adultery.  Everyone does
it,"
said Harris.  "What makes me angry is that I hear this right here, in
the
church."  Adultery destroys relations within the community and with
God, he
said, and may be even more damaging while it's a secret.
     "Myth: Victims of clergy sexual misconduct come forward for the
money," said Harris.  As an attorney, he assured the group that the
accuser
he sees in court wants two things: "They want to be believed; they
don't
want it to happen to someone else."
     Most victims contact the church before they call an attorney,
said
Harris.  "They sue us when they see indifference," he said.  "They
get
angry when they meet denial.  That's when they sue."
     Church members often blame the synod bishop or the church for
not
treating the accused pastor fairly, said Harris.  "What about being
innocent until proven guilty?" he asked.  "Is the pastor given
Miranda
warning?"
     A Miranda warning, which police read to those under arrest to
remind
them immediately of their legal rights, is not appropriate when a
bishop
talks with a pastor, said Harris.
     "The bishop is simply asking for the truth," he said.  Warning
would
give the pastor the option of silencing witnesses, rallying support
or
finding some way to hide the truth rather than tell the truth.
     What about a "statute of limitations?"  Harris said that's a
commonly
misunderstood legal term that does not apply to clergy misconduct.
It
would imply that if the pastor can hide the truth long enough, he
should
get away with it -- a reward for lying effectively.
     "We haven't had to use the process often, but I want to tell you
the
process works," said Harris.  Discipline and appeal committees begin
with
the assumption of innocence, he said.  "The process is designed to
protect
the pastor's rights."  It may appear unfair only because accusers
take the
charges very seriously, he said, and do not bring them without a lot
of
evidence.
     With all the pain and strife of disciplining a pastor for
misconduct,
why bother?  There is a small element of deterrent, said Harris, but
the
main reasons are for justice, truth, the integrity of the ministry
and the
sake of the gospel.
     "The God that I know is not the God who helps those who help
themselves.  My God helps those who need help," said Harris. "God
calls you
to help those who need help."

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