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	September 10, 2009 .................... LCMSNews -- No. 75

Intentional family ministry can 'transform' congregations

>By Linda C. Hoops

Family ministry leaders in the Synod are convinced that intentional
family ministry is not another "congregational program" that serves a
specific age group. Rather, it is an all-encompassing viewpoint that
provides for and encourages the shaping of faith among family members
from birth until death.

"It is when congregations and families partner together in specific and
measured ways to focus on involving faith-filled people in the support
of parents and one another in nurturing homes where faith is built and
shared in genuine ways and the next generation is equipped to live out
their baptism, passing the faith on to their children," said Dr. Steven
Christopher, interim associate director of Children's and Family
Ministry, LCMS District and Congregational Services.

To reach that goal, he and more than 50 family ministry leaders met
earlier this year in Phoenix for a three-day summit under the theme
"Build and Tell."  Along with sharing  family ministry ideas undertaken
in their congregations, participants contributed to, and will be
involved in, a National Plan of Action for Family Ministry, providing
leadership in their respective regions.

A recently formed Family Ministry Action Team composed of eight
professional church workers shared its key elements to help individuals
and congregations achieve their plans:

	

*	Building the Home: Home is the primary faith-shaping unit.  The
congregation can strongly impact families by providing support and
offering resources that help families grow in faith within the setting
of the home.

	

*	Faith Journey: The congregation in action -- with programs,
events, and growth opportunities for families to participate in --
connects families with the wider Christian family of faith, encouraging
mutual support as this community of faith encourages and nurtures one
another in developing habits that contribute to vibrant faith, which can
then be practiced and lived out in the Christian home.

	

*	Discipleship: The personal faith growth process that each family
member experiences is supported by the home and the church.  It is
unique for each individual and draws on the resources of both the home
and the church to forge new life perspectives and deeper faith so that
faith is passed onto the next generation.

Intentional ministry to and with "family" is critically important,
Christopher said, because "it is the foundational means by which to pass
along the faith to the next generation.  Believing that faith formation
happens best within the family unit, we seek to resource ways that are
intentional about helping family members grow in the knowledge of
Scripture, in the understanding of the Gospel, and in the practice of
service in love to one's neighbor."

James Bradshaw, LCMS Kansas District education executive and chair of
the Family Ministry Action Team, agreed.  "Intentional family ministry
is when the church partners with individuals, within the context of a
household, to provide support along the various stages of life's journey
by providing appropriate Christ-centered resources and training. It is a
congregational ministry with families that focuses on faith development
of children, youth, and adults."

Ben Freudenburg, program director of family life at Concordia
University, Ann Arbor, Mich., said that congregations face challenges in
their support of family ministry.

"We must help the congregation see that family ministry is not another
program; rather, it is the very heart of all of congregational life," he
said.  "You can't do Lutheran school and not be doing family ministry.
If you are doing children or youth ministries, you are doing family
ministry.  A big challenge is helping people catch that view.

"No one denies nor refutes the idea that families are important,"
Freudenburg continued.  "Nobody would say anything negative about
building strong marriages and families.  Yet the models used by our
churches don't reflect that belief."

As an example, he said that while the majority of churches have youth
programs, many of those programs don't have an element that reconnects
them to their parents and siblings in the growing of their faith during
this important developmental time.

"During the past 50 years, the shift has been away from the family.  The
church has changed from a congregational community built on families to
a business-style community," Freudenburg said.  "Faith is less evident
in teens' lives than it's ever been.  Families and marriages are less
valued.  Kids today define 'family' as those who care for and love them.
Many don't define family in terms of their biological family.

"I believe the current church culture has led parents to believe that
the church is responsible for faith formation, which I call 'Church
Centered -- Home Supported,'" he continued.

"Family ministry is helping the church move toward a new paradigm, 'Home
Centered -- Church Supported,' in which the church forms the community
of faith in a way that agrees with the biblical view of being a partner
with the home, and intentionally shapes the church to be a Christian
marriage and family forming center."

Returning to a biblical view of family ministry has benefits, said
Christopher.  "Children, youth, and parents will share their faith
journey together, walking with Jesus and with each other, growing in the
trust and belief they share in their Savior.  It is congregations
equipping parents for their vital roles of faith proclaimers and
supporting them on the home front.  It is the passing of the faith from
one generation to the next."

Jill Hasstedt, family ministry director at Zion Lutheran Church,
Belleville, Ill., says her congregation is in the 16th year of
intentional family ministry and that it is "in the flavor of all we do
-- not necessarily a set of special programs.  The church is the only
institution in society that connects with people from cradle to grave.
The impact we can have for Jesus' sake is amazing."

She offered some examples of the family-ministry-focused change at her
congregation:

	

*	made worship more child-friendly (provided "wiggle-tamers" bags,
children's messages every week, worship tips for parents).

	

*	invited parents into youth ministry, and ensured that each youth
has four or more positive adult relationships in his or her life.

	

*	offered meals to all new parents and "tweaked" its baptism
preparation for parents.

	

*	started Christmas Eve services specifically designed for
families with young children.

	

*	offered a Lenten service after school, followed by a meal.

	

*	implemented regular parenting classes and began Parent
Networking Teams.

	

*	created a process for students to commune for the first time
with their families (tears are normal, she said) on their confirmation
day.

"We haven't arrived at where we want to be," Hasstedt said.  "Where we
need to be is that Jesus becomes the center of every heart and every
home."

Freudenburg said congregations experience a change when they return to a
biblical understanding of family ministry.  "They find a wonderful
connection between parents and children.  It transforms a congregation.
And unchurched people come to church to seek that kind of help."

Christopher says that some of the best resources to help congregations
become family-friendly are the leaders in the family ministry movement.
In January, the Family Ministry Action Team will invite 20 of these
leaders to attend a visioning summit with the goal of expanding an
organized network to extend coaching, training, and resources for
congregations throughout the Missouri Synod.

Congregations that embrace family ministry, he said, "will enjoy a wider
sense of connection with each other as they model a large and accepting
family unit of faith."

For more information on family ministry within the Synod, visit
http://www.lcms.org/family or contact Christopher at cnhdce@aol.com
<mailto:cnhdce@aol.com>  or by calling 925-784-1272.

Linda C. Hoops is a freelance writer and a member of Lutheran Church of
the Resurrection, Sunset Hills, Mo.

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